I hear this ALL the time!
From women I’ve met at play groups, some enquires and even during my classes. They see making a plan as setting themselves up for disappointed. They know birth can be unpredictable, so what’s the point?
First of all I like to call it your birth preferences. I believe that the process of writing your preferences is almost as important as having them written down! 📝
In order to write them you need to research your options, you need to discuss with your birth partner, speak to medical professionals, ask questions!❓
If you don’t have anything written down and you haven’t looked into anything prior to giving birth, you are going to be making a lot of decisions on the day. You won’t have as much time to research and make a fully informed decision. You could also potentially be disturbed more frequently as people walk in, turn on lights, ask questions about your care. You want to have as much knowledge as possible prior to giving birth and have your wishes written down so you can be left undisturbed as much as possible!
Yes, the journey to birth can change. However it’s important to have discussed your options with your birthing team. They are going to be protectors of your birth environment but they can’t do that if they don’t know what your wishes are! 🤷♀️
You are not setting yourself up for disappointment. You are preparing, gaining knowledgable, researching and all of this process will help protect you from potential birth trauma.
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